The prostate is hidden, but high-powered. The prostate gland is essential for healthy semen. It’s also considered the male version of the G-spot and can provide substantial sexual pleasure.
Sure, some people think having healthy semen, hence healthy sperm, is only important for people wanting to have children. But there’s so much more to the prostate than that. In addition to being a pleasure powerhouse, keeping your prostate in top-notch health may save your life.
According to 2020 statistics from the National Cancer Institute, prostate cancer is the third most common type of cancer behind breast and lung cancers.
Prostate Cancer by the Numbers
The American Cancer Society’s 2019 statistics are a wake-up call for prostate health.
As you’re reading this article there will be almost 500 men diagnosed with prostate cancer today. Additionally, today approximately 85 men will be killed by prostate cancer.
Masturbation & Prostate Massage Can Help
The Boston University School of Public Health and Harvard Medical School studies reported men who ejaculate 21 times or more during a one month period were less likely to develop prostate cancer.
Sperling Prostate Center is just one organization reporting prostate massage can be pleasurable and can reduce risk of prostate cancer.
It appears as though there are several good reasons for keeping your prostate healthy! Are you ready to learn more about this important gland?
The Prostate Gland in a Nutshell
The prostate is a small muscular gland about the size of a walnut.
This gland is located between the bladder and rectum in men. While the prostate is an internal organ, the back of the gland can be felt through the lining of the rectum about a finger’s length from the external opening of the anus.
When not cared for properly, it can also harbor stale semen, which can lead to all types of health concerns.
According to Caitilin Kelly, MD and the experts at Very Well Health, milking a prostate gland via massage removes stagnant semen inside the prostate ducts. UCLA Health encourages men to practice Kegel exercises to strengthen pelvic floor muscles, which support the prostate gland.
WebMD reports that some men say they've had increased sexual pleasure and are able to ejaculate more easily with prostate massage.
A study published in the National Library of Medicine found that triweekly prostatic massage combined with antibiotic therapy resulted in a 60% decrease (significant improvement) in chronic prostatitis symptom severity. Prostatitis is the medical term for an enlarged prostate.
When doctors perform a digital rectal exam on male patients, they are checking the size and condition of the prostate gland. Most often, they are checking for the symptoms of an enlarged prostate.
Contrary to what many assume, most doctors and therapists are given only one day of sexual intake training in medical school, so their knowledge on prostate massage and anal pleasure can be limited. One reason prostate health is starting to register with the medical community is due to Baby Boomers reaching an age where their physicals are including prostate exams and many doctors are finding enlarged prostates. Men have begun to search for ways to reduce the size of their prostates and this is when they encounter prostate massage.
Benefits of Prostate Massage
Practicing regular prostate massage can have multiple benefits, including:
- Enhanced sexual enjoyment and improved erections
- Removal of the accumulation of prostatic fluid in the prostate gland
- Support for a healthy prostate, enabling it to function properly
- Relieve pain and discomfort of an inflamed prostate
- Help prevent prostate cancer
Prostate Stimulation can lead to Orgasm
Now that we’ve established that prostate massage can be very pleasurable and is recommended for continued prostate health, let’s learn about how it can also lead to a prostate orgasm.
Simply put, adding prostate massage to solo-sex and partner-play allows for more powerful orgasms.
The prostate is a power point located near the perineum. Regular prostate massage has had some of my male patients report longer, harder erections, while others have experienced their first multiple orgasms.
I’d like you to be aware of something that’s a common occurrence. The first 2-3 times that a man tries prostate massage, it is perfectly normal for nothing to happen. This is important to know because many men believe it isn’t working or they’re doing it wrong when a prostate orgasm doesn’t occur. Be gentle with yourself and give your body time to adjust to new sensations.
As prostate massage is made a regular part of an overall health regime, pleasure increases and the visual quality of stagnant, trapped semen will improve. The difference between a prostate orgasm and regular ejaculation is that semen will flow out rather than being squirted out. (Did you know that during ejaculation sperm can reach speeds of 28 mph?)
I recommend gently milking your prostate gland once a week, when you feel comfortable with it. Medical News Today reports that men suffering from chronic prostatitis find relief with 2-3 prostate massages a week for the first month with reduced frequency as symptoms improve. Prostatitis is an inflamed, enlarged prostate gland that can narrow the urethra and cause erectile dysfunction and painful ejaculation.
Just know that the health benefits of prostate massage may spill over into your sexual life and allow for longer, more intense ejaculatory orgasms.
How-To Prostate Massage
As mentioned above, your prostate gland is located inside your rectum toward the front of your body. It swells with fluid during sexual arousal and this is often the best time to find its location.
The best way to stimulate the prostate and encourage the release of stale semen is by using specifically designed prostate massagers. Their ergonomic design can target the prostate and make massage easy and effective.
Prostate massage can also be done by using your own or your partners’ finger, but sometimes fingers aren’t long enough for accurate massage. Often arms are also not the right length to accommodate comfortable self-massage.
To massage your prostate manually, begin with a well lubricated finger that has a smooth, well-trimmed nail. Lubrication is important when using fingers and prostate massagers since the rectum in not self-lubricating.
Assume a comfortable, relaxed position. With my own patients, I suggest laying on their side in a slight fetal position. Your fingers or a prostate massager will match the curve of your body in this position, so it usually feels best.
Insertion should go very slowly. When you begin, take a deep breath and blow out as you begin to ease your finger or massager into your rectum.
In order to naturally open your anus, you may try to slightly push out your rectum as though you’re on the toilet. Never force or shove. Just breath into it and take your time. It might feel like your finger or massager is being pulled inside once you have the tip halfway in. This is natural. The rectum does create suction. That’s why sex toys with flared bases are always recommended for anal play. Many prostate massagers will also have bases that allow for a firm grip while massaging.
Remember to breathe. Relax and allow your body to become accustomed to having your finger or toy inside you.
Prostate massage can be done by slowly pressing down on your prostate gland and rubbing it. By repeating this rubbing movement, you can do a one-finger massage on your own or your partners’ prostate gland.
Using Prostate Massagers
As previously mentioned, prostate massagers are helpful because they are appropriately designed to stimulate the prostate without guessing its location. Many are developed by physicians.
Prostate massagers can be rocked to apply pressure to the gland. Another method is squeezing and releasing PC muscles in your pelvic floor, which will tilt prostate massagers and allow them to automatically massage.
Many prostate massagers have vibration as a stimulation option. I suggest experimenting with a few different types of massagers to find out what shape and stimulation works best for you personally.
Introducing Prostate Massage to Your Partner
There are a couple of focuses that I recommend when first speaking with your partner about prostate massage—sexual wellness and increased sexual enhancement.
Sexual Wellness: Share statistics with your partner. According to the American Cancer Society, other than skin cancer, prostate cancer is the most common cancer in American men. 1 man in 9 will be diagnosed with prostate cancer during his lifetime and 1 man in 41 will die of prostate cancer.
What if you could save your partner’s life? If you love your partner and care for their health, having a frank conversation with them is the first step.
Sexual Enhancement: Prostate massage can be a bonding activity for partners.
As mentioned above, prostate massage has pleasurable bonuses. Looking beyond the health benefits, prostate massage is a great way to add a new dimension to sex play. Treat your partner to a prostate orgasm.
Have you tried prostate massage? Are you going to try it? Have you ever had a prostate orgasm? I would love for you to share your experiences with me! And, if you have any questions that I can help with, please feel free to ask me.