In January 2020 Christie Brinkley posted a 1977 photo of herself in a bikini on Instagram and shared her feelings that the swimsuit’s “high leg cut made the hip a new erogenous zone”. While I’m not sure if Christie’s hip really did start a new erogenous zone revolution, I do agree that an erogenous zone is not always in a traditional spot.
The G-spot, as well as the clitoris, nipples, cervix, and vaginal opening are thought to be the most common erogenous zones, and the ones most frequently referenced by my patients when discussing this topic. It’s secondary erogenous areas, which change from person to person, where things can get interesting.
So, what exactly is an erogenous zone? It’s an area of the body that, when stimulated, creates a response in the region of the brain known as the genital sensory cortex. This brain response signals a sexual response. In most instances, sexual responses occur when a person’s clitoris or frenulum is stimulated.
With most of the people I’ve spoken with, areas of the body where the skin is thinnest seemed to be places where sensitivity is heightened and can lead to arousal. Common secondary erogenous areas are the crook of the arm, earlobes, and the back of the neck.
Here is a quick list of other possible erogenous areas:
- Lower Back
- Inner Wrists
- Elbow Crook
- Behind the Knees
Explore Your Zones
I’m going to share the recommendation I give my own patients who want to discover new erogenous areas. I suggest setting a date with yourself or your lover and exploring your bodies slowly and patiently—but avoid the most common erogenous zones.
Take time to allow fingers or lips to tenderly caress places that are normally overlooked. If goosebumps appear, this may be your first clue that this area may be particularly responsive.
In this article I’m going to focus on one popular erogenous area—the G-Spot!
The G-spot was initially named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German physician who wrote about its existence in the 1950s. But it was shortened to G-spot in the 1980s when it became known as a powerful erogenous zone that, when stimulated, could lead to intense orgasms.
The G-spot can be elusive. In fact, during a 2017 study researchers failed to find the G-spot. This is because the G-spot is a part of your vaginal region clitoral network. When you’re stimulating your G-spot, you’re actually stimulating a part of the extended clitoris, which was found in September 2005 to be much larger than originally thought. That was when the first 3D ultrasound imaging of an entire clitoris was done.
The G-spot is made of erectile-like tissue that can double in size when stimulated. This makes it easier to locate and makes it more easily stimulated during vaginal sex play.
G-Spot Arousal can make it Easier to Locate
So, it swells when aroused. But how can you locate this infamous G-spot location?
The G-spot is located about a fingers’ length inside the vaginal canal, forward toward the front of your body. Because its erectile tissue, it can feel spongier than vaginal tissue.
How-to Stimulate Your G-spot
Have you used a Trac Ball on a laptop mouse? Have you ever motioned for a bartender to “come here”? This is a movement you make with your primary pointing finger. By slowly pressing down and rubbing back, and then repeating this movement, you can do a one-finger massage on you or your partners G-spot.
There’s an even easier way to stimulate this highly erogenous area. There are pleasure products designed with all types of angles and curves to specifically target your G-spot. Some sex toys offer vibration, while others can be used as non-vibrating G-spot massagers.
There are even partner toys that can be worn during sex play to precisely stimulate your G-spot in a hands-free, effortless manner.
Sex Positions to Stimulate Your G-Spot
First, the Standing Sex position offers penetration in which a female partner can experience direct g-spot stimulation. This is because “straddling” your partner in this position can angle your pelvis for G-spot arousal.
Masters and Johnson’s research found that certain types of vaginal penetration can provide women with a G-spot orgasm that may involve an involuntary holding of breath that is released explosively at climax, with orgasmic contractions taking place deep inside. A Standing Sex position may allow partners a pleasure experience that they haven’t enjoyed before.
Next, Off the Bed is a sex position where the female partner lies face up on the bed with her legs off the end of the bed. It’s important to place a pillow under your buns to keep your pelvis lifted and in an optimum receiving position. The male partner stands at the end of the bed and lifts your legs.
Optionally, you can wrap your legs around his waist or place them on his shoulders for a deeper thrusting experience.
As a bonus, this position creates intimacy because both partners can look at each other’s eyes, which works well for mutual connection. This Off the Bed position also allows both partners to use their hands to caress each other.
While the man is in the best position to control the thrusting, the pillow allows for women to be in perfect alignment for full penetration and optimal G-Spot stroking.
Can G-Spot Stimulation lead to Squirting?
Please allow me to share some additional information about G-spot stimulation, namely female ejaculation.
Many can attest to G-spot stimulation being incredibly pleasurable and may help encourage orgasmic responses. But the G-spot has also been found to be linked to squirting.
Research by the Journal of Sexual Medicine has found that up to 50 percent of women can discharge fluid during sex and specific G-spot stimulation may up that percentage. This is something to keep in mind as you explore your G-spot for yourself.
Isn’t it time you explored your own erogenous areas and the magical G-spot? Have you ever experienced sexual squirting? Please share your stories with me! And if you have any questions, I’m always here to help.