In recent years there has been a lot of attention given to the ‘orgasm gap’ and the fact men tend to have more orgasms than women. In a study published by the National Library of Medicine, women reported having have an orgasm 63% of the time, while men enjoyed orgasm 85% of the time.
Due to all of the media attention this topic has received, there have been a lot of articles and education focusing on female erogenous areas and ways to achieve orgasm. This means male erogenous zones are less focused on and remain something of a mystery to many.
So, what exactly is an erogenous zone? It’s an area of the body that, when stimulated, creates a response in the region of the brain known as the genital sensory cortex. This brain reaction signals a sexual response.
I’m here to share these secret locations with you. Being able to stimulate his most sensitive spots may help to lead to more intense orgasms. And I believe everyone should be able to enjoy their best orgasmic pleasure.
Secret Erogenous Zone #1 – The Frenulum
The frenulum, which is considered a man’s equivalent of a clitoris, and is located on the upper underside of his penis next to the coronal ridge. It looks like a small V just below the head. The frenulum is home to a concentrated number of sensitive nerve endings.
According to the Journal of Contraceptive Studies, it’s reported that the frenulum plays an important part in erection and ejaculation.
The frenulum can be stimulated in several ways. Being that it’s incredibly sensitive and responsive, the lightest pressure can have a big effect.
Using fingertips, the frenulum can be gently massaged in a circular pattern, much like stimulating the clitoris. During partner play, a finger, thumb, tongue, or tip of the nose can all be used to apply stimulation. If choosing to use vibration, I suggest starting with the gentlest setting.
The frenulum has the power to trigger orgasms without any additional penial stimulation. It’s worth your time and patience to explore this secret spot.
Secret Erogenous Zone #2 – The Gluteal Fold
The Gluteal Fold is a prominent fold on the back of his upper thighs that marks the separation between the thighs and lower buttocks. This fold coincides with the lower border of the gluteus maximus muscle, which is one of the strongest muscles in the human body.
This area is sensitive to pleasurable sensation, which may explain why some people enjoy being spanked.
Start with gentle stimulation in this region. Use your hand or fingernails to stroke the crease of the fold. Kissing, nibbling, and massage can all build up sexual tension. Sure, a gentle slap in this region can also bring pleasure. Once again, when considering vibration, I recommend starting gently before moving to more intense stimulation.
Secret Erogenous Zone #3 – The Sacrum
The sacrum, also called the Kundalini spot, is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips at the small of his back. I’d like to share that there are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating this area can send sensations directly to his sexual organs.
This is the location where the pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), a hammock-like muscle found in both sexes, stretches from the pubic bone to this spot to support pelvic organs.
This spot can be massaged externally. However, but because it’s tied to the deeper PC muscle and pelvic floor, light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum may work better when orgasm is the goal. This type of stimulation engages the sacral nerves and may trigger the parasympathetic nervous system, which is key for relaxing, letting go, and experiencing an orgasm.
Some medical studies show that electrical stimulation of the parasympathetic nervous system can trigger orgasm. So rather than consider vibration options, it may be more effective to explore electro-stimulation sex toys when desiring a sacrum-specific orgasm.
Secret Erogenous Zone #4 – The Scrotal Sack
Sometimes the focus is so intent on the penis that the scrotal sack is overlooked. The scrotal sack is the loose skin that surrounds the testicles. The line that runs in the middle of the sack like a seam is called the raphe and has been found to be particularly sensitive.
The scrotal sack is a tender area and should be treated gently.
Stimulation in this area should be approached with care. Start with gently stroking. Make sure to gauge how delicate stimulation feels in order to proceed.
Nibbles, kisses, gentle tugging and massaging, and finally, vibration, can all be used to titillate the sensitive scrotal sack. Heat can intensify feelings in this area so exploring warming toys and lubricants should be considered.
Secret Erogenous Zone #5 – The Feet
Specifically, the bottom soles of his feet are home to a high concentration of receptive nerve endings. Anyone who has experienced a reflexology massage knows that applying pressure to the feet can create unique pleasures.
According to Yiska Obadia, a self-proclaimed massagapuncturist, there is a point located on the sole of each foot that corresponds to the kidney meridian and when stimulated, it can have a sedating effect. This spot is named the “Bubbling Spring” and is located about one-third of the way down from the third toe, right in front of the arch in the center of the foot.
Using your thumb or the rounded end of a massager, gently press and rub around this area of his foot to get his blood flowing throughout his entire body. Increase pressure to give him a sense of sensual calm.
Quick Recap of Secret Erogenous Zones:
- The Frenulum
- The Gluteal Fold
- The Sacrum
- The Scrotal Sack
- The Feet
I suggest, rather than racing directly to his genitals during foreplay, explore some of these lesser known erogenous areas that may have a greater impact on his senses.
You can always explore these zones yourself with strokes, touches, and fondling to see how your body responds. You may find a new favorite sensual spot and new sensations to enjoy.
Is there an erogenous zone that you’re interested in knowing more about? Do you give yourself permission to explore new pleasure options? Please send me your questions and comments. I’m always here to help you!