Looking for a bit of hot, kinky boob stuff? I mean, who doesn’t want to witness some beautiful small or big tits get a well-executed breast bondage treatment, maybe in a hardcore bondage scene from a leather-clad dom?
If you’ve ever frantically searched for “breast bondage sub toyed” or “breast bonded sub bigtits,” chances are you might be into breast bondage or other types of BDSM. ;) The internet truly is a big, wide, wacky wonderful world where you can find pretty much anything you desire (vintage breast bondage videos, anyone?).
But seriously -- if you’re into the way that ropes look against luscious skin, then it’s likely you might also be into seeing those same ropes wrapped up, around, and between some gorgeous breasts. And if that’s the case, maybe you even want that rope wrapped around your very own breasts.
What is breast bondage?
Breast bondage is the act of tying something around the breasts so that they are constricted in some way. That constriction could come from an elaborate chest harness - a purpose-built harness (meaning one designed for exactly this purpose), or from something simple and creative like a slinky.
According to certified sex coach and author Gigi Engle, “Classic bondage involves the tying of the hands, feet, and other body parts—whereas breast bondage specifically focuses on tying the breasts themselves with ropes, ties, and harnesses.”
Despite how cunning and devious humans can be, depending on breast size, different types of bondage will fit better. You wouldn’t tie up a huge breasted partner the same way you’d tie a smaller breasted one, for example.
The point of breast bondage is not to actually restrain the breasts (I mean, where are they actually going to escape to?). In the words of Kinkly, breast bondage “focuses on the aesthetic appeal of tied breasts and the erotic aspects of the practice, rather than restraining the subject.”
Breast bondage types
First, it’s important to mention that breast bondage isn’t only for femme-presenting folks. Any breast-owning individuals can get their magnificent mammary masses munched, mangled, and even manhandled.
One popular form of breast bondage is called shinju, or “pearl” in Japanese. This refers to the binding of breasts in the shape of a bra or harness. The slang for this includes boob bondage. Shinju is usually done with rope.
Tying style will change here and there depending on whether you or your partner has small breasts, average-sized breasts, large breasts, or massive breasts. This is primarily because of the amount of extra weight and, thus, tissue constriction that occurs. If you’re ready to lean into tying up a big boobed gf or bf or tf, the next step is to get some knowledge all up in there via some breast bondage how-tos.
How to tie breast bondage
Breast bondage, how to do it?
Before we start the breast bondage tutorial, when it comes to any type of bondage, you don’t want to use rope from the hardware store. “That stuff can cause burns and be painful,” says Engle. Instead, you should grab some bondage rope that’s specifically made to lie flat on the skin and is made of very soft cotton or another material that doesn't chafe. “Now, if you really want to turn up the heat,” Engle adds, “you can also use leather or spandex harnesses that are specifically designed to highlight the breasts.”
Spandex. Mmmmm.
Second, when combining any sort of body constriction like a BDSM ball gag with your strict rope bondage technique, bear in mind that constriction over extended durations of time (with any body part) can be dangerous. Regular blood supply is important! So, be sure to keep a close eye on the feel and color of any bound body parts. If they’re changing color, that’s a great indication that playtime needs to pause or end.
There are a number of quality breast bondage tutorials online and potentially classes more local to you. Bonus: if you get involved in your local kink scene, you could even meet the breast bondage sub or dom you’ve been dreaming of.
Now, the rope itself is a very robust tool, and through the art of shibari (Japanese bondage art form/style), you can get your rocks off with both suspension bondage and breast bondage. With the right knowledge and safety procedures, it’s a two-in-one! A stable base harness is perfect for breast suspension because of its strength (with the right rope) and adaptability. This harness provides a nice visual aesthetic while offering opportunities to include breast and elbow bondage.
Also, if you’re into travel, some kinksters run instructional multi-day workshops with classes, social time, and elaborate demonstrations. Maybe you really want to see a demonstration on suspended slaves breast whipping! You might even be able to connect with other like-minded people and hone your breast bondage technique.
Breast bondage safety tips
There are two things at play when it comes to this kind of thing: emotional safety and physical safety. Let’s do the first one first: If you’ve never played in the world of BDSM, it can be very helpful to go through a simple worksheet and/or BDSM contract with your partner beforehand. Having a structured way to talk about things like your desires, fears, and boundaries is a wonderful way to get closer as a couple/team, build trust, and also explore more of one another’s deeper truths.
This relates to the second, which is physical safety within the context of emotional safety. For example, before you’re to get in a bit of tit torture, you’ve got to make sure that everyone is onboard with the ropes, ties, constrictions, and confinements that’ll be involved. If one bondage play participant thinks they’re only going to have one breast spanked and the other has their heart set on reenacting scenes from their favorite extreme amateur BDSM videos, living out their wildest rough bondage session fantasies, there’s going to be a problem due to a mismatch of expectations. Again, talk beforehand!
Another thing to note is that when breasts are in bound form, they can become very sensitive - even more so than in their natural boob state. So, keep that in mind if you’re planning adding in any sort of pain sensation (heat, nipple clamp, ice) alongside your bound small or big breast buffet. This is especially true depending on the time of the month; many breast-owners report heightened sensitivity during certain parts of their cycle.
With any form of bondage and rope play, safety and consent are the most important factors. Be prepared to cut ropes, break chains, and remove any sorts of straps that are attached to the sub (submissive partner) when necessary. Their safety is of the utmost importance. If you’re playing with rope or bondage tape, have safety shears/medical shears within quick reach. If you’re playing with something that needs more robust tools (chains, for example), make sure to bring the bolt cutters. Nobody wants their fun sexy rope scene to come to a cataclysmic end due to lack of preparation.
Remember that consent is a fluid thing and can be withdrawn at any time. Have safe words established prior to engaging in your raunchy rope romp (the traffic light method of “green,” “yellow,” “red” is always a good safeword option). Be prepared to tone things down or end the scene altogether if anyone involved is no longer into it.
Rope thickness matters. If your rope is too thin it can cut into the skin, causing tearing and potential scarring. If you notice the skin beginning to tear, end the scene and take appropriate measures to make sure the skin heals and doesn't get infected.
Any part of the body really shouldn’t experience a prolonged loss of blood through constriction. This includes breasts, so if they’re becoming tingly, or changing color to a blue or purple, it is definitely time to untie those boobies and let the blood rush back in. There should be enough space to slip at least a finger under the ropes.
Why things like breast bondage are hot
Listen, whether you just want to dip your toe in the water here or break out the fetish porn and watch a big-breasted woman endure BBW breast torture as she gets her breast flogged, it’s all good. Maybe you or your partner is into some nipple play with nipple clamps, having their pussy stimulated by rainbow-colored cock sex toy while wearing a BDSM mask and BDSM collar, or would like to experiment on bondage clothing. Nobody is here to judge.
And we get that one challenge when it comes to things like breast bondage is how to bring up that you want to do it with a partner. Engle’s tip is to start with something like, “‘I’ve been looking at these gorgeous harnesses for breasts and I just think my body would look so amazing in one. Would you be open to trying it?’” Or if you’re into the idea of a breast-owning partner doing this, “Hey, I’ve got this thing I think you’d look super sexy in. Would you be open to checking it out?” and then explain what you’re thinking.
Something to include in the discussion is the fact that bondage and exploring other types of adult sex toys can, in fact, really bring you closer if you’re both willing to lean in. In the words of Sang Bleu contributor Esinem, “Many of us, especially women, are brought up with the idea of guilt in relation to sex or, at the very least, in relation to certain acts or behaviour: The nice girls don’t do that’ mentality. Bondage can be used to expiate this guilt by providing the convenient excuse of being tied up and thus ‘unable’ to resist, safe word notwithstanding. Thus, the social restraints are removed: Freedom through bondage!”
Amen.
