Fact: everybody loves butts. Whether you like looking at them, grabbing them, putting things up them, or just sitting pretty on yours, we can probably agree that we are all united by an appreciation of butts. You might be here because you’re curious about experimenting with your butt, or because you’ve already decided you like having your tushy touched and are craving more. Either way, we like it! Here's another fact for you: sex toy-wise, butt plugs are a great place to start for backdoor beginners thinking about exploring anal play.
Let's get the butt play elephant out of the room right now and acknowledge that there is, unfortunately, some stigma attached to butt stuff and the people who like it. To that, we say: let the people put stuff up their butt!!! Period! Butt-owners of all stripes are all entitled to take advantage of the zillions (possibly an exaggeration) of nerve endings and pleasure places tucked up inside their derriere.
Dear reader, if you want to learn more about exploring your back door, read on.
What to Know Before You Begin
Our first words of advice are as follows: try before you buy. Next time you’re doing the dance with no pants on, ask your partner if they’d be comfortable putting a finger up your butt (lubed up of course). Or, if you’d like to go solo, do it yourself! This way, you can start to get a feel for what type of sensations you’d enjoy. Are you into motion? Thrusting? Stretching? That “just the tip” feeling? These are all things you should be considering before purchasing a butt plug.
IMPORTANT: Never stick anything without a BASE up your butt. Never. Under no circumstances. And don’t be stingy with the lube! Slather it on! Seriously.
Your anus naturally expands and contracts to allow things to pass through it. This is good and necessary. Here's the thing though - the muscles in your butt are stronger than you might think. Contractions due to stress, stimulation and even simple arousal can 'suck' objects up. Needless to say, you do NOT want a baseless dildo, plug or probe roaming free up your butt. Any anal toy needs to have a base that is significantly wider than the penetrated portion. The base will act as a barrier against too-deep travels. Trust us, you definitely want that barrier!
Don’t ignore foreplay! Unless you normally have a very relaxed butthole, you need to prepare for a butt plug. Light fingering, lots and lots of lubricant, and deep, relaxed breathing will help to prepare you and your butt for a plug. This needs to happen every time you use your plug to avoid discomfort or injury. As you become more comfortable with butt play, the amount and length of your foreplay may decrease, but you should never neglect foreplay. Actually, this goes for any sexual act. Embrace the foreplay!
What to Consider When Choosing a Butt Plug
Butt Plug Material
Sexperts suggest that butt plug beginners use plugs made of silicone. This superstar sex toy material is soft yet firm, extra hygienic and body safe. It tends to have more flexibility and 'give', plus it naturally warms to body temperature.
It should be noted that silicone butt plugs (or any type of silicone toy) should not be used with a silicone-based lubricant. Silicone breaks down silicone, and you definitely don’t want to damage your toy while it’s inside you. You should also avoid oil-based lubes with silicone toys, as those two don’t interact well either. Water-based lubricants are best, but always check with the manufacturer's instructions first.
More experienced and adventurous users may want to opt for a glass or metal butt plug. These materials are more sturdy and heavier, adding sexy weightiness your experience. Glass and stainless steel plugs are also extra hygienic and compatible with any type of lubricant.
Plastic, rubber, PVC and elastomer plugs can be more difficult to clean than silicone, glass and steel varieties, so be sure to wash them well before and after playtime, and please keep them to yourself. Luckily, we have some fantastic sex toy cleaners that’ll help you keep your butt toys squeaky clean.
Butt Plug Size
Size is an extremely important factor when choosing a buttplug - especially if it’s your first time using one. Beginners often make the mistake of buying an average-sized butt plug and expecting it to just slide on in comfortably. That’s a big no-no. If you’ve never put anything more than a finger up your butt, you need to ease into it. Start small and work up to something bigger.
Consider something like the Booty Bling Small, which features an adorable gem on the base. With an insertable length of 2.75 inches, this plug is a small size that’s great for beginners - or those who just prefer smaller things going in the back door. The sleek neck at the base makes this plug comfortable for long-term wear and helps it stay put if you plan on moving a lot while wearing it.
If you think you’re ready for something a bit bigger, the Anal Fantasy Large Weighted Silicone Plug is a good (still manageable!) step up.
Prostate Stimulating Butt Plugs
Attention prostate owners! If you're looking to explore prostate massage and stimulation, specially designed butt plugs for prostate stimulation definitely exist, and we've got 'em!
The We-Vibe Vector Vibrating Prostate Massager is wonderful for reaching that sweet P-spot. The curved shaft is adjustable to allow users to further personalize the experience and find a unique angle that works for them. The We-Vibe can be controlled via the We-Vibe app by you or your partner, and features lots and lots of vibration options.
If you’re looking for a prostate-geared butt plug that doesn’t vibrate, the beloved Fun Wand is a fantastic option. In weighty, super smooth stainless steel, it's curved strategically to simulate your or your partner's p-spot, plus, it features a nice big handle for lots of control.
We know, we know, you’ve heard this all before, but lube is especially important when it comes to anal play. Unlike the vagina, the anus does NOT self-lubricate, meaning it can become very dry and uncomfortable very fast. Using tons of lube will ensure your butt plug experience goes smoothly… pun intended.
As mentioned before, silicone-based lubricants cannot be used with silicone toys. However, as it is a much longer-lasting lubricant as opposed to water- or oil-based, it is recommended to be used with glass and metal butt plugs.
Water-based lubes aren’t quite as long-lasting, but can be reactivated with water or saliva and are super easy to clean up. There are also lots of anal lubricants specifically meant for butt play. Anal lubes tend to be a little thicker, staying in place better for reliable moisture.
Whichever toy you decide to use, make sure you use it safely, don’t forget foreplay, and use LOTS of lube!