How To Use A Vibrator?

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How To Use A Vibrator?

 

So you’re ready to kick your sex life up a notch with a vibrator? Awesome! There are lots of different ways to use vibrator sex toys — in fact there are even more ways to use a vibrator than the different kinds of vibrators there are out there, and that’s really saying something! Whether you’re looking for a rabbit vibrator, a little bullet vibe to fit into your purse, an internal vibrator, or one for external stimulation, we got you. 

For many, sexual stimulation is the goal when it comes to using a vibrator. There are even vibrators that can mimic oral sex. (Sign me up, baby ;) ). Of course, sexual pleasure is on the menu when it comes to vibrators. But it can also be pleasurable just to feel that vibration on different parts of your body. 

Vibrator use can even help with sexual wellness and healing. According to trauma-informed sex educator Cassandra Corrado, “Some people who have experienced sexual trauma find that the sensation of hands on their body is a trigger. For these folks, being able to masturbate hands-free can be incredibly healing.”

 

What is a vibrator?

A vibrator is a type of sex toy that’s made to deliver lots of sexual pleasure to lots of different kinds of bodies. ;) Seriously though, vibrators come in lots of different shapes and sizes; the thing they all have in common is that they, well, vibrate. Some are made for clitoral stimulation (aka external stimulation), while others are designed to get all up in there and give you G-spot stimulation.

If you’ve never tried a vibrator before, have no fear! You don’t have to know everything beforehand. You get to explore and figure out what feels good and what you’d rather skip. 

And again, all bodies are welcome. In the words of Corrado, “Vibrators are tools that bring a lot of pleasure into your sex life. This is especially true for people with limited mobility and certain disabilities, who might not be able to reach or stimulate their genitals.” Sexual health is for all!

 

How to choose a vibrator?

Listen, when it comes to how to use a vibrator, the truth is that whatever feels good is right! And one of the things that changes between vibrators is that different types give you different kinds of sensations. 


Determine the type of vibration you like

Basically, you’ve got two different kinds of vibrations when it comes to vibrators: buzzy or rumbly. With certain vibrators, you can actually get deep, intense vibrations that can actually extend beyond just the area you’re focusing on — it can impact other parts of your body. 

According to sex toy store manager Elani Davidson, “Buzzy vibrations are high-pitched surface vibes while rumbly vibrations are lower, deeper vibes that penetrate further into the tissue. Wands tend to fall on the rumbly side. So if you’re a fan of deep, powerful vibrations, wand vibes are the toys for you.” (We’ll get to wand vibes in a minute.)


Determine the type of vibration you like

Another one of the things you’ll want to explore in your vibrator wanderings is whether you want an external vibrator, which tends to help you out with that good good clitoral stimulation, or whether you want some internal stimulation. 

If you want to imitate penetrative sex and get some vaginal penetration with your new vibrator, you’re probably going to want a rabbit or a wand type of vibrator.You’ll also need to know the ins and outs (hehe) of how to insert a vibrator safely. If you’re looking for more surface-level vibes, you’ll probably love a bullet vibe.


Choose what fits the moment

The other thing to know is that the best vibrator for a particular moment will be the one that fits that moment. In other words, maybe you use a different vibe for different kinds of evenings. Say you’ve got lots of time on your hands and want to make things really special for yourself. It’s time to grab that special new lube you’ve been wanting to try, and your favorite sex toy or toys. This can even be a form of sexual medicine. 

But if you’ve only got twelve minutes before your next Zoom meeting and you’re looking for a little release, maybe you’ll want to grab something that you know will get you off faster and perhaps even through your panties (no need to even take off those PJ bottoms that you’re wearing with that blazer for your next meeting). Enter a wand vibe or even a bullet vibe.

The point is, you get to decide what you want, when. Whether you identify as a woman, man, non-binary person, or anything else, vibrators can be a source of a veritable fun factory of sensations. 

 

Pick a vibrator

There are so many to choose from! Don’t be overwhelmed, though: You can’t really go wrong. A lot of people say vibrators are among the very best sex toys because they’re so easy to use and provide so much. 

Here are a few categories to select from:

 

Bullet vibrators

A bullet vibrator has tons of advantages, one of which is that you can take it with you wherever you go! In the words of Glamour’s Gina Vaynshteyn, “In A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Shakespeare wrote, ‘Though she is little, she is fierce,’ and we're guessing that he was talking about the best bullet vibrators. 

In all seriousness, a bullet vibe is the go-to sex toy choice for many people with a clitoris due to its discreet size, power, and ability to give toe-curling orgasms. It's also a super-versatile toy, which is another reason it's such a nightstand staple.”

You can also get bullet vibes that are super cute-looking, like ones that imitate a tube of lipstick. 

 

Rabbit vibrators

Also known as a dual vibrator or G-spot vibrator, rabbit vibes are rad because they can do several things at once. As Sophie Saint Thomas and Gabrielle Kassel of Allure put it, “Rabbit vibrators, for those who are unfamiliar, are the love-child of a dildo and clitoral vibrator. They are designed to activate vaginal and clit stimulation at the same time — specifically, an internal hot spot inside the vagina known colloquially as the G-spot or G-zone.

Some rabbit vibes even add a third arm into the mix for anal play. Stimulating two (or more) nerve-dense body parts, as the rabbit vibrator does, is thought to increase the chances of a blended orgasm, which is basically a two-for-one orgasm special.”

If you already have a dildo you love, you may wanna try out a rabbit vibe. Basically, you get all that dildo action plus clitoral stimulation; what could be better? And if you’ve never experimented with anal touch, this can be a safe way to get that going, as well. Again, you get to go at your own pace!

 

Wand vibrators

These include toys like the Hitachi magic wand vibrator and Le Wand wand vibrators. A Wand vibrator is a different type and style of vibrator that you’ll hold by a handle and guide the head or tip to desired body areas. They’re meant for outer or external stimulation, and tend to be extra powerful.

In the words of one penis-owning sexpert, “The idea of blending stimulating foreplay with penis-initiated sex by following up with magic wand-led stimulation feels ideal. Especially for those receiving partners who possess a clitoris, the ability to discover the unlimited plethora of angles and pressure points that provoke your clitoral arousal is essential. Also, combining methods can impact your orgasm in new and exciting ways.”

In other words, even if your partner contends with premature ejaculation, there are still ways for you to be satisfied that can be equally satisfying to him/them. Sex therapists worth their salt will tell you that the connection during sex is more important than any single physical sensation (related story: orgasms don’t have to be the goal of sex!). 

 

Waterproof vibrators

Do you like to get down and dirty in the shower? Then you’re gonna want a waterproof vibe! There are plenty of silicone vibrators and others that are made to be taken into the shower or bathtub with you. Just be sure you’re getting an actual waterproof vibrator, not just a water-resistant one.

According to Lindsey Lanquist, “Many vibrating toys are genuinely waterproof. You can bring them into the shower or tub—even into the pool or hot tub (assuming you have adequate privacy). Though these toys have electrical or battery-operated components, they boast solid shells that keep water from getting inside. This means you’ll want to take good care of your waterproof vibrator; a small crack could mean your vibrator is no longer submersible.”

 

Remote-controlled vibrators

Wanna make date night really special? Pick up a remote-controlled vibe or even vibrating panties from top brands like We-Vibe, Satisfyer, and more.

According to Kasandra Brabaw and Sarah Madaus, “[Some remote-controlled vibrators” still can be used within a short range of a separate wireless remote and even worn in your underwear—they can add an element of intrigue to foreplay, sex with your partner who’s in the next room (or abroad), or for public play, if that’s what you’re into. 

Even for people living their best single life and just looking to ramp up solo play, remote control adult sex toys can make masturbation easier. Want to change the vibration speed? All you need is a simple tap on your phone screen, smartwatch, or connected remote to dial up the intensity.”

 

Add accessories

So, it turns out you can accessorize your vibrators. For example, you can put different kinds of attachments on some types of wands and other vibrators. This can take a toy you’ve had for a long time and make it “new” again. There is a lot to explore here. 

 

Set the vibe

When you’re about to get into sexy time, you want to make sure your settings are right. In other words, make sure your door is locked, the lights are in a setting you like, and you’ve got your trusty lube on hand.

You also want to make sure you’re warm enough. If the goal is orgasm, it turns out it’s really hard to orgasm if you’re too cold!

 

Take your time

We rush so many things in life! Don’t let this be one of them. You want to make sure to allow yourself all the time and space you need to explore your whole body, not just the most “popular” ones. 

You’ve got so many erogenous zones all over that bod! In the words of Healthline, According to Kate McCombs, New York-based sex educator and founder of Sex Geekdom, “There are plenty of reasons to bypass ‘boring’ body parts and focus on the sweet spots when you’re canoodling. But there’s also a really good reason why you shouldn’t: Exploring your partner’s body and touching on unexpected erogenous zones can bring a lot of playfulness into your sex life.” 

According to McCombs, a few of the more unexpected spots that can feel delightful with either “regular” touch or a little touch of that special vibrator, are:


 The inner wrist

 “It’s got a lot of nerve endings,” McCombs shares. “It’s right at that pulse point, and it’s that first stage of when your body starts to become more intimate.”


Nape of the neck

According to one study, women actually ranked the nape of the neck above nipples and breasts as an erogenous zone. In McCombs’ words, “It’s such a sexy place because it’s such a vulnerable place. 


The booty

This may sound obvious, but the butt is super sensitive -- both inside and out. Even if you’re not ready to explore the inner world of your anus, the outside is also really lovely to stimulate, especially with a vibrator. As sex researcher Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D puts it, “You'd think something that's so often used has lost all feeling, but the bottom is pretty high up there when it comes to erogenous potential.”


Behind your knees


Again, this might seem odd, but McCombs says “it’s another nerve-rich area where we’re not often touched. It’s a novelty, because it’s not where our friends or colleagues are touching us. Touching the back of the knees and leading up to the thighs is intimate... and it gets you closer to the main attraction.” 


Your feet

As Vrangalova says, “[T]here are certainly people for whom having their feet touched, licked, sucked, etc., is a sexually arousing experience. But you don’t have to have a foot fetish to enjoy your feet getting touched or having a vibrator down there for a bit.

So let’s say you’ve gotten your vibe, done some really nice touching all over, and then gotten to that good O. What’s next?

 

Keep it clean

Last but not least, ya gotta wash your sex toys, people. This doesn’t need to be elaborate; just wash it with warm soap and water. Just make sure you get all inside the crevices. And, of course, always take out the vibrator batteries (if applicable) before you do so. 

Remember that porous toys (TPR, PVC, elastomer, real skin) will need to be cleaned very as thoroughly. Because there are little pores within which bacteria can hide, you want to make sure to cleanse these well. Sex educator Searah Deysach says, “You want to clean your sex toys every time you use them because dirty (used) toys can introduce bacteria and possibly cause infections. They can also collect lint, dust, and other debris that you want to keep out of your bits.”

“Porous materials can be cleaned with soap and water or a toy cleaner. A gentle liquid soap, like you would use for your hands, is a fine choice for most toys. [Sex] toy cleaners can also get your toys sparkling in a snap … After you’ve washed your toy, let it air dry before putting it away.”

So there you have it! Everything you need to get into the vibe. ;)

 

 

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