The topic of sex and disability is often overlooked in discussions of sexuality. Sex is a pleasurable and healthy activity, and one that should be achievable no matter your age, body or condition. That's why we're shining a spotlight on accessible sex positions for people with disabilities and how the right sex toys can make your bedroom encounters even better.
Is it your first time with a new partner? Keep in mind, if any of the following positions require you or your partner to move out of a wheelchair, go slowly and assist each other through the transfer process to ensure everyone has a good time.
1. Devine 69
Oral sex is great. But it's even better when you both get to partake! When you're talking about oral sex and a disability, there are two options in terms of positions: traditional or sideways 69. Traditional 69 works best when there's only one partner with mobility issues. Sideways 69 is a great option for when both partners have mobility concerns. Both positions are good for those in a wheelchair, or those with weak or spastic hips. Just keep in mind, you may have to adjust depending on the disability.
- For traditional 69, the partner with mobility issues should lay on their back, and then the other partner will back their body up on top. The partner on top should have their genitals hovering over their partner's face and their face hovering over their partner's genitals — it's a classic give and receive position!
- For sideways 69, one partner will lay on their side in a spooning position. The other partner will then face them with their head at the opposite end.
Both positions allow each partner to easily and comfortably stimulate their lover with their fingers, tongue or a vibrator.
2. Revised Doggy Style
Think you can't have doggy-style sex in your chair? Think again. Wheelchair sex can be just as satisfying and hot as any other type of sex. This is a great position for situations when only one partner is a wheelchair user. It's also comfortable for those with hip pain. But keep in mind, the person in the wheelchair will need to have a penis or use a strap-on set.
To get into position, the partner with mobility issues will need to move their wheelchair to the edge of the bed. Then, their partner can slowly lower themselves on top, keeping their back to their partner's stomach and resting their arms and upper body on the bed while the partner with mobility concerns begins to thrust. Be sure to use pillows or wedges to ensure you're both as comfortable as possible.
3. Modified Missionary
Modified missionary is an incredibly pleasurable position and one that is ideal for relationships where one partner has mobility issues and the other does not. It's also a great position for those with lower back pain, as it puts little pressure on either person's back.
To get into position, the partner with mobility issues lays at the edge of the bed while their partner stands between their legs facing them. Then, the standing partner lifts their partner's legs and places their ankles on their shoulders. You can even add a sex pillow to help position you or your partner more comfortably. This is a down-and-dirty, erotic position that will leave you both yearning for more.
4. A Spoonful of Sugar
Spooning is an intimate position that allows for ample connection and touch. This is one of the best sex positions for disabilities that require low movement. It's also great for those with arthritis, back pain or fibromyalgia, as the bed absorbs and relieves any potential pressure on the joints.
Have one partner lay on their side, in a slightly curled up position. Then, the other partner can snuggle up behind them, entering them from behind. This position frees up your hands to feel and stimulate each other's bodies. It's erotic, sexy and extremely comfortable.
5. Upside-Down Turtle
Ah, the upside-down turtle. This is often a go-to sex position for those with mobility issues. It's comfortable, makes it easy to enjoy pleasure and allows for ample handwork. This position is great when only one partner has disabilities, and it's a prime sexy-time position for those with chronic pain.
To achieve the upside-down turtle, the partner with the disability should kneel down and lower their chest, letting it rest on the bed. Then, the other person will kneel behind them and hold their hips, supporting their partner's weight with their arms while thrusting. What we also like about this position is there's room for modification. Want to take things to "new heights"? Use a sex swing to allow one partner to be suspended in the air. Suspension products are easily adjustable, so nearly any penetration height can be achieved.
6. The Sitting Pretzel
Being wrapped up with your partner face-to-face is a vulnerable position and one that allows you both to be incredibly affectionate. It even has the potential to take your emotional intimacy to an entirely new level. The sitting pretzel is one of a few wheelchair sex positions that are perfect for one male wheelchair user (or a partner with a strap-on dildo) and a partner without mobility concerns. It's also a good option for those with chronic fatigue or decreased mobility in their legs.
The partner in a wheelchair should move to the edge of the bed, facing away from it while in their chair. The non-disabled partner will need to carefully straddle and wrap their arms around their partner, who is sitting in the wheelchair. The partner on top can then brace their feet on the edge of the bed in order to begin thrusting. We love this position because it allows both partners to go at their own pace in order to create a strong emotional and physical connection.
Bonus Tip: Don't Forget Foreplay
While penetrative and oral sex positions for disabilities are important, we can't forget about the many other ways to excite and satisfy our partner. The body is filled with erogenous zones just waiting to be touched and teased. Foreplay can (and should) include kissing, caressing and nibbling of the following zones:
- Nape of the neck
- Lower back
- Inner wrists
- Back of the knees
Remember, do what makes you both feel pleasure comfortably. These positions can often be modified or tweaked to work for most people, no matter the disability. Just remember to never force something that doesn't feel good or right. If you're curious about whether or not you can safely achieve a position, be sure to consult your regular physician or caregiver.
Try Out New Sex Positions with the Help of PinkCherry
Just because you have mobility issues doesn't mean you can't have a healthy and active sex life. We hope these pleasurable sex positions will help you or your partner feel more confident in the bedroom and lead to a better connection between you both. Need a little assistance? At PinkCherry, we have an awesome selection of sex toys to choose from. Shop for everything from sex swings to vibrators and more. You just may find something to satisfy a new desire you never knew you had!