If you’re curious about all the possible bondage sex positions that exist, you’ve come to the right place. Today we’re breaking down (or tying up!) the nine best bondage sex positions for you and your partner to try the next time you’re yearning for some after-dark or afternoon delight adventure(s). If you want to try it with yourself first, you can also learn how to perform self bondage as well! Whether you’re using bondage rope, sex restraints, BDSM handcuffs, or nipple clamps for BDSM play, let's find the best sexual position for your sex play!
Just FYI, some of the following are positions that you can try by yourself, while others are bondage positions for couples. As always, when playing with a partner, please make sure that you’re both on the same page about what will be happening, what your or their limits are, and what you both want to gain from the experience. Bondage play requires magnitudes of trust on both sides, so lay everything on the table before tying any knots.
Now, without further ado, let’s jump into the nine best bondage sex positions for you and your partner to try! Just as a note, we’ve written this guide from the perspective of the partner in control (not tied up!), but all the following tips and tricks work just as well in reverse, too.
1. SPREAD EAGLE
A classic! Not only does Spread Eagle give unobstructed access to your partner’s body, it’s also the most comfortable for beginners. This position involves tying or cuffing their wrists and ankles to bedposts or similarly strong anchor points. They’ll be at your sweet mercy and won’t be able to wiggle away if you want to spend hours loving on their body or playfully teasing them.
Bondage Ideas: Throw in a blindfold, bondage tape, or an ankle/leg restraint! Make sure to learn how to use bondage tape first to avoid a sticky situation. Or, try a sex swing for additional pleasure and fun.
If you want to (literally) step up your game a little, you can play in the spread eagle position while standing. Instead of securing their wrists and ankles to the bed or otherwise, have your partner stand, with their arms held out to their sides. You might require some specialized gear, like a door bondage set to accomplish this, but luckily, PinkCherry has you covered when it comes to finding just the right bondage equipment.
Keep in mind that standing positions will usually place more stress on their body, especially around the joints, so check in frequently with your partner, and don’t leave them standing for too long.
2. KNEES TO CHEST
This sex position mimics missionary, but there’s a twist: your partner’s legs will be bound in place. You’ll have lots of options for penetration, if that’s the intent, but the view is great, too!
They can be on their back with legs-to-chest, or face-down with their folded legs beneath them. This rope bondage position can even work with your partner on their side, just have them curl into a ball.
This position or bondage technique be accomplished in a few different ways, but here are two go-to options:
- Secure their shins to their thighs. This prevents the bound-up partner from straightening their legs. If they get tired of holding them up, they can lower their legs and rest their feet comfortably on the bed or whatever surface you are lying on.
- Tie their shins to their torso. This is a more extreme position since the tied-up playmate can’t straighten their legs or bring their legs down. For beginners, we recommend rolling your partner on their side or folding their legs beneath them, so their muscles don’t tire.
3. THE CRAB
In this bondage position, their wrists and forearms are secured to their ankles and shins. The Crab doesn’t allow for very much movement, just a little bit of rolling around. It does, however, help support the legs, and provide a great view, and access to their genitals and butt. If youre both up for it, this is a great bondage sex position to combine with a vibrator, dildo or other favorite sex toy.
4. DOWNWARD DOG
Downward dog is basically the reverse of the Spread Eagle, and it’s just as fun. Have your partner lie on their front, then spread their arms and legs. You’ll then secure their wrists and ankles with cuffs or rope. The bed is an obvious choice for this position, and there are lots of options for bed bondage in general, but other locations can work just as well. All you need is four secure anchor points for your cuffs or rope. This fun spin on doggy style is a great way to explore bondage restraints such as ankle cuffs or even bondage rope.
If you and your partner enjoy the discipline aspect of BDSM, the Downward Dog is the best position for you both to discover how much you like spanking. Or, if you want to get a little rougher, you have easy access to your partner’s hair for some gentle pulling to make things more exciting.
5. DOUBLE COLUMN TIE
Learning how to tie bondage can seem daunting but it’s so worth it! A double column tie is exceptionally versatile and can be used in a variety of situations and for different limbs. It isn’t actually a sex position; it’s a method of tying up your partner IN a variety of sex potitions. It’s a great way to bind two limbs together, like the wrists or the ankles, although you can use any two parts of your limbs.
The best part about the double column tie is that the knot won’t accidentally get tighter as your partner moves around or squirms. You won’t have to worry about the knot becoming so tight that you cut off circulation or do any damage, although you should always check in with your partner regularly during bondage play just to make sure.
6. HOGTIE
Hogtying a partner is a more advanced maneuver. If you and your partner are new to the BDSM scene or bondage, we recommend waiting until you’ve both become more comfortable tying knots and quickly undoing them before giving the hogtie a try. Or, you can pick up a hog-tie cuff kit that doesn’t require any knot work at all!
Here’s how the Hogtie works: their wrists and ankles are bound together, usually around back, but around front works, too. People who want to try a more advanced version can connect their partner’s elbows to their knees to make the position more challenging to maintain. Please play safe in the Hogtie position. Don’t leave your partner tied up for longer than thirty minus, max, and check in often to make sure that they’re okay.
Not every partner will be able to accomplish this position (or want to), so it’s best to ease into it. Have your partner try and hold the position without the use of ropes to gauge their tolerance level.
7. SPOONING
If you and your partner want to try something simple to start, spooning is a gentler way to play. To spoon, lie with your front to their back, and, using your hands, some soft cuffs or even a silky tie, secure your partner’s hands together in front. If you’re feeling a little more creative, you can also tie your partner’s wrists to a bedpost. Just ensure that you can properly cuddle up behind your partner to achieve the spooning position.
Spooning is an inherently romantic position, so for beginners, this can make you and your partner feel extra safe and secure. Trying something new like rope bondage can be intimidating, but if you can feel your partner right there with you, it can go from scary to sexy in a heartbeat.
8. CHAIR BONDAGE: INTERROGATION OR REVERSE CHAIR
One of the most popular bondage positions makes use of a chair. Reverse chair refers to having your partner face the chair’s back, which can be harder to access them. Interrogation involves tying their ankles to the chair legs and their wrists behind their back while you torture them with your lips, tongue, fingers, and anything else you can think of. This can be a fun way to use ankle restraints or wrist cuffs during sexual activity.
9. BENT OVER BONDAGE
Your best bet with bent over bondage technique is to securely bind your submissive partner to something stable, like a stool or a chair. Depending on what you’ll be doing after binding them up, choose something that won’t block your hands, tongue, penis, strap-on or otherwise. Just be sure to choose something secure, because the chances of things getting squirmy and sexy are pretty high!
With your partner’s booty in the air, you can take your time to apply some much-needed spankings, kisses, or caresses. Whatever you want to do, it’ll be a surprise, since they won’t be able to see what’s coming. This can be a great way to amp up the sexual pleasure for both the bound and dominant partner.
TIME TO TIE IT UP
At PinkCherry, we always love to encourage adventurous, exciting, fulfilling sex, whether you’re flying solo or with a partner. When you incorporate bondage positions like these, you can add some sizzle to your sex life. Not sure where to start? No problem! Check out our huge selection of bondage gear for some inspiration. And yes, we definitely have rope!
Sources:
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/g35684481/rope-bondage-sex-positions/
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/g13822514/rope-bondage
