Art of the Sexual Massage – The Hands-on Guide to Giving a Mind-Blowing Erotic Massage

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Erotic Sensual Massage And Sex Toys To Set The Mood

 

Let’s see a show of hands from those of you who really love getting and giving slow & sexy massages! Ok, now we’re just going to assume that you’ve each got at least one hand up, which means you’ve definitely come to the right place. In this article, you’ll learn how to up your massage game and surprise your partner with a sensual massage that will be permanently stuck in their memory.

 

Picture this: You’ve had a really long, hard day (or week, or month) at work. It’s Friday, which means the weekend has arrived and all you want to do is grab a bottle of your favourite wine on your way home and share a glass with your lover before settling in for some one-on-one sexy time. What could possibly be any better than that? Well, what if when you walked in the door, your partner had everything set up to surprise you with a super-sexy erotic massage to help you unwind and forget about everything except for their touch?

 

Sounds pretty awesome, right? Indeed, it most definitely is! While some people may be apprehensive about offering up a massage to their partner for fear of ‘not doing it right’, the truth is that it’s a lot easier than most people think. After all, it’s not like most of us are professional registered massage therapists. But don’t get stuck thinking you need to be, because your lover isn’t coming to you for accredited physical therapy! They’re just interested in your touch, and the sensations that go along with it. To give a great erotic massage, there’s just a few key things that you need to keep in mind, as well as a few products that you can get that make things even easier, and a whole lot sexier.

 

The first thing you’re going to want to do is invest in a proper massage table, something that’s adjustable, so you can set the height, which makes it way more comfortable for both the giver and the receiver. You can get a good portable/foldable massage table on Amazon.ca for under $200.

 

With the table sorted, the next thing is to set the right mood for your sensual massage, and the key to setting the right mood is all about enticing the senses.

 

Setting the Mood to Entice all the Senses

 

As we all know very well, the 5 senses are sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Setting the stage for a great sexual and sensual massage means tapping in to as many of those senses as you can to maximize the erotic experience.

 

SIGHT - Start with where you’re planning to give the massage, and think about how the environment looks to help improve the visual impact and effects. Dim the lights, if you have a fireplace, lite it, and enhance the ambiance with some candles (in safe places, no fire hazards, please!).  Then, take a look around and see if there’s anything that might be distracting, such as general household clutter that always seems to gather in random places. Toss that stuff out of sight, and worry about it later.

 

Next, it’s time to put on something that will make your partner’s jaw drop when they see you. For the ladies, this could be any kind of lingerie, from your sexiest matching bra & panty set, alluring teddy or lace bodysuit. For guys, make sure you’ve got your sexiest underwear on, and pay attention to what your partner has told you are your hottest outfits, and choose something that will work from those. Of course, you could always just wear nothing at all, and we’re sure that will work out just fine!

 

SOUND - When it comes to sounds, the right playlist of music can really add a lot to the sexy atmosphere. You can choose anything that you find sexy, as long as you feel that it sets the right mood and has the right message. You may want a playlist of songs with hot, sexy lyrics, or choose something instrumental for a different kind of ambiance. Of course, don’t forget your own voice, too! Talk to your partner in a low, sexy kind of voice as you work your hands over their body. Just stick to sexy talk, because this is certainly not the time to vent about work stress!

 

Hot Tip: Combine your music choices with the different parts of your massage. When you create your playlist, you can group the tunes to create different moods at each part of your massage, and then use those song changes as cues to move on to the next part of the massage. Your partner will be blown away when they experience all the different sensations you’ve got planned, and how the music changes as you go.

 

SMELL - Smell is an important sense when it comes to sexy time, and you should pay close attention to it. There are some scents that are well known to help turn us on, such as vanilla, chocolate (no kidding), and floral scents like roses. Choose massage candles or incense that have scents like this, but aren’t too strong. You want it subtle, and not overpowering. Remember to get yourself smelling sexy, too. Your favourite perfume or cologne, spritzed in the right places, is always a good idea!

 

TASTE – There are a couple of different ways you can work the sense of taste in to a erotic massage. First, you can include some small treats as part of the massage that you have planned. It could be a glass of champagne to sip on during the rubdown, or perhaps it’s a small bowl of your favourite chocolates to nibble on. Of course, there’s also the classic combo of whipped cream, strawberries and chocolate, and we know that you’re already familiar with what to do with those ingredients!

 

The other way to work in some delightful tastes in to a hot & sexy massage is to use scented and flavored massage oils and sex lubes. They’re available in many different varieties, including sweet tastes like vanilla and chocolate, or fruity flavours such as strawberry or cherry. By choosing a flavoured massage oil, you’ll open up a new set of massage techniques that include lips, tongues, and teeth (be gentle). Flavoured massage oils are designed to be perfectly safe to eat, which some traditional massage oils are not. Be sure to always check the label and instructions on the massage oil you choose to ensure that it’s suitable for oral uses before you start licking it off of your partner!

 

TOUCH – This is the big one when it comes to the art of the sensual massage. Being in tune with the way your touch feels on your partner is really important, and helps make sure that the massage is as sexy as you want it to be. If this is your first time massaging your partner, be sure to start by warming your hands and the oil up a bit. Cold hands aren’t the best way to kick things off!

 

Ask some subtle & sexy questions to your partner about how you’re doing, whether you’re pushing too hard, or not hard enough. Slow, smooth, rhythmic motions are what you’ll want to focus on. Fast & aggressive movements are generally not as relaxing and won’t typically deliver the sensual, relaxing sensation that you’re aiming for.  

 

When you move your magic hands across your partner, be aware of the pressure you’re using and where your hands are, since some areas of the body are more sensitive to pressure than others. Also, use the palm of your hand, the tips of your fingers, the entire area of your hand, as well as your forearm (using your arms will help when your hands are getting tired), all deliver different kinds of pressure sensations. More pressure is usually good on firmer muscles like those on the back and legs, but you’ll want to be gentler on soft tissues like those around the belly where too much pressure can really be uncomfortable. Remember, if you’re in doubt, just ask if you’re pushing too hard. Just like any other sexy activity, practice makes perfect with your sensual massage skills!

 

The different types of massage oils that are available will also have different feels and sensations on the skin as you move your hands. Oil based massage lubes will feel slightly different from silicone-based lubes, and so will water-based massage oils. If you’re not sure which one to try, we recommend buying a small bottle of each and trying them out until you find the best one for the sensations you’re trying to achieve.

 

You can also find massage oils that have warming or tingling sensations, which can add a different sexy dimension to the feeling of your touch as you massage your partner’s hot body. Don’t be afraid to try new types of oils, as you never know when you’ll discover the next best thing in sensual massage!

 

Hitting the Right Spots & Discovering New Ones

 

Ok, now that you’ve got your music playlist ready, your room is filled with the perfect atmosphere, and you’re dressed (or undressed) to impress, the time has come to start putting those hands to work on your partner’s body. Every part of the body is fair game when it comes to an erotic massage, not just the obvious areas. The best sexy massages will work their way all over the body, taking advantage of all the different erotic zones that get us all hot & horny, including breasts, ass, and of course the pussy, cock and balls!

 

The legs & feet are a great place to start your sexy massage. Long, firm, smooth motions up and down the muscles of the calves and thighs feels wonderful and is definitely relaxing. Foot massages also feel amazing, just be sure to actually ‘massage’ the feet and not just tickle them. Of course, if that’s your game, then go nuts and watch your partner giggle with pleasure!

 

Use a similar method on the arms and hands. Long, slow motions on the muscles of the arms, and circular, rhythmic movements on the hands to relieve tension and turn your partner to putty in your hands.

 

Gentle pressure and slow, steady massaging of the neck helps to melt away tension. While you’re in this area, spend a little time lightly massaging the ears, and using subtle circular motions on the temples, which are known to be very relaxing sensations.

 

Next up, spend some time on the muscles of the back, which for most of us is where we keep a lot of built-up tension and stress. Firm pressure, but not too firm, and constant motion will feel amazing for your partner. Here’s a tip; the area between the shoulder blades is a prime spot for knots to develop, so spend a little extra time there.

 

Moving on to your partners’ flip side, the chest is where things start to get really hot for most of us. Although the reason may be quite obvious for the ladies, men also get a lot of sexual pleasure from their chest and nipples. Trust us when we say, a sexy chest massage will definitely get your motor running, no matter who you are!

 

From the chest, it’s just a short trip down south to get to the scene of the big finale. Completing your sensual massage with a hot handjob for the guy or a sexy rubdown of the vulva and clit for the girl is like the massive fireworks show you get to see after an awesome day at the amusement park. Ever wonder where the term ‘happy ending’ comes from? Well, wonder no more because after all the amazing sexual build up from the massage finally comes to fruition, your partner will be left with one hell of a big smile!

 

YouTube is your friend when you’re learning to give a great erotic massage. There are tons of videos that you can refer to as you build up your skills.

 

Feel the Good Vibrations

 

Want another tool to help give your partner even more sexy pleasure during your massage? Try working in some exciting sensations with a vibrator like the rechargeable Magic Wand. The soft silicone head is perfectly shaped to soothe sore muscles and deliver relaxing vibes all over your body, and the cordless design makes it easy to use anywhere you want. It feels unbelievably great, trust us!

Return the Favour

 

If you’re the one on the receiving end of one of these amazing sexual erotic massages, turn the tables on your partner next time and give them their own sexy rubdown. Massage is a wonderful way for couples to connect on a very intimate level, and it’s also a fantastic way to get you both warmed up and turned on before jumping in the sack for some very, VERY hot sex. The feeling of your partner’s hands on your body in such a relaxing and arousing way is a surefire way to set the stage for some amazing lovemaking.

 

Now that you’ve got the know-how, pick up some fun new massage oil and start to craft your perfect massage environment. Give your partner a sensual massage that is unlike anything they’ve experienced before!


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