How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

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How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

 

What’s faster than a speeding bullet? … how fast you can have an orgasm with a bullet vibe. ;)

Just kidding -- it’s not that fast. But you’ve probably heard of how indispensable many clitoris-owners say their bullet vibrators are. And if you’ve ever wondered how to use a bullet vibrator, look no further. We’ve got answers for you. (Hint: it’s not just about the clit.)


What is a bullet vibrator?

Bullet vibes are just what they sound like: little vibrators that are (usually) shaped like bullets. Small but powerful, these mini vibrators can provide both therapeutic and sexual pleasure. As feminist sex shop owner Searah Deysach puts it, “If you’re looking for great external stimulation on a clitoris, penis, or nipples, bullet vibes are very versatile and can still pack quite a punch.” They also tend to be super affordable — you can even get one for under $5!

Now let’s talk about the sheer variety of toys covered by the term “bullet vibrator.” Sex toys have come a long way, and sex toy manufacturers now make everything from waterproof bullets, rechargeable vibrators, egg vibrators, and other bullet vibrators from high-quality materials like soft silicone. TL;DR: there are lots of different kinds of bullet vibes.

Vibrating bullets are usually four inches long or less, which means they’re super convenient for both solo play as well as partnered activities. You can incorporate a bullet vibe into doggy style, for example, giving yourself some great clitoral stimulation while your partner goes to town. You can also give yourself (or a pal) nipple or perineum stimulation while other things are going on. And because of how small they are, they pack easily into not just your suitcase, but your purse or backpack. You can take ‘em anywhere and everywhere!

Bullets are the fun, discrete, and hella travel-friendly clitoral vibrators you’ve been craving. They’re both versatile and exciting — a great combination!


How to choose the best bullet sex toy or vibrator for you

While most bullet vibes look like, well, bullets, there’s quite a range of shapes and sizes when it comes to this cute little pleasure-giver. Note that you always want to make sure your toys are made of body-safe materials, so you should favor bullets made of things like stainless steel or body-safe silicone.

Some bullets are simple, with very few bells and whistles. Others have attachments, like silicone sleeves that are either ribbed or smooth, enhancing the stimulation. Still, others are curved at the top so you can get some G-spot stimulation in. Some bullets are waterproof, which give ‘em that extra splash (see what we did there?).

And others even have a remote control. Yep, bullet vibes like the PinkCherry Silicone Remote Bullet Vibe give you even more flexibility when it comes to your pleasure-seeking. You can use it yourself for some hands-free fun, or give that remote to a partner for some unexpected bliss at any time (date night, anyone?). In the words of one happy user, “I gave the remote to my partner, and we were driving in 2 separate vehicles. I was surprised it worked for the duration. I must say we were all ready to continue once we arrived at our destination!”

One thing you’ll want to consider when it comes to your bullet vibe is just how much vibration you want. If you’re a newbie when it comes to bullet vibes, it’s a great idea to get one that has several speeds, so you can get the hang of how much intensity you want.


How to use a bullet sex toy, vibrator, or small vibrator

There are basically two ways to use your bullet vibe: alone, and with others. They’re both brilliant in different ways!

When it’s time for some scintillating solo sex, bust out that bullet vibrator and hit up some erogenous zones. Here are a few ideas: tease your own nipples; play with your bullet vibe over your clothes downtown, including the back door. Here’s another fun one: rest your bullet vibe near your lady bits while you continue reading your romance novel, erotic story, or while you stimulate your own nipples in other ways.

When it comes to sex with a partner — or partners — you can take turns stimulating each other with your new toy. Or, you can play together and take scissoring to a whole new level. Whatever your gender or body make-up, it ain’t great to forget about the taint. ;) You can also add nipple play into the equation; the bullet vibe can give you some great nipple action while you’re engaging in other acts.

Bullet vibrators can also add some pizzazz to toy-based penetrative sex. If you crave vibrating internal stimulation and your toy has a bullet compartment, slide your puppy in there with some a bit of lubricant so you can actually get it out again if you need to recharge it (some bullets are USB-rechargeable) or change the batteries.

And remember that if you’re not enjoying certain sensations, you’re in charge of your own sexual pleasure. For some clitoris-owners, too much direct sensation on the clit itself too soon is actually painful. The goal here is to figure out what you like. You might like using a toy like a bullet vibe only solo or like it a lot more when it’s used in conjunction with sex with a partner. You may also find that you only like certain sensations (like more pressure/higher vibrations) at certain times during your cycle. Your body changes over the course of the month, including your sensitivity.


Ways to enjoy bullet vibrators

First off, it’s important to mention that even though your parts have an orgasmic number of nerve endings, using sex toys on yourself or others won’t cause any nerve damage. There are some myths about vibrators causing damage to nerve endings or even a “dead vagina.”

This is not a thing! Sex toys, wand vibrators, vibrating cock rings, etc., don’t pack nearly enough of a punch to actually create issues, unlike, for example, a jackhammer.

So how should you use a bullet vibe? Here are a few guidelines:


1. Take it slow

Take time to figure out what your body aches for. Use your bullet on all your own spots that light you up before so that you can learn what your likes and limits are. As mentioned, sometimes strong vibrations and direct clitoral stimulation can be too intense, and while it might lead to intense orgasms, it’s better to start slower, softer, and gentler first.

Vibrators can have more than 10 different vibration settings, so depending on the type of toy you get, bullet or otherwise (rabbit vibrators are fun), there should be variability to let you enjoy and play.


2. Don't rush to your clit

Related to this, remember that your body is covered in erogenous zones! Try using your bullet on a low setting and just exploring. This is also helpful given that you need to know what variety of intense vibrations your vibrator packs before venturing forth into the sacred underground. Again, try keeping the vibe on a low vibration setting and then working up to more (when you find a spot that feels particularly good).

Here are a few hot spots to definitely try: your nipples, your tummy, your inner thighs, the backs of your knees (yes, really! This is particularly great if you’re getting a massage from someone), and your labia. The vibration sensation can actually awaken new erogenous zones you didn’t even know you had. ;)


3. Use more than the tip

You may be tempted to go for just the tip (teehee), but there’s really so much more possible here. Yes, the tip of the bullet is designed to pinpoint lots o’ vibration, and it is titillating in its own way. But flip your vibe on its side, and you’ll be able to cover more area. This can make things even better and extend your pleasure!


4. Switch it up

If you’re playing with a bullet vibe with different speeds or patterns, switch things up! As humans, we tend to try one thing and if we like it, stick to it. But there are lots of ways to get yourself off, and you should know about them all. ;)

Here’s another fun trick, especially when you’re starting out: In order to lighten up the sensation when it’s too much (which it can be at first), hold the bullet in a way that makes your fingers vibrate, and then use those to touch yourself. This is also a fun way of touching a partner.


5. Use lube!!

We can’t emphasize this one enough: use lube. There are a bunch of myths out there about lube, like that women and folks with vaginas should never “need” lube because she should be able to get wet herself. Or, that you shouldn’t need to use lube with a bullet vibrator because it’s so small.

Wrong. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you if you need luber. Bodies change over time, and so does your ability to lubricate. And lube makes everything nice and slide-y — how could it ever not be the right thing to use?

The other fun thing about lube is that there are lots of different kinds to choose from. If you’re using a silicone-based toy, you probably want a water-based lube. But did you know there are also warming lubes, cooling lubes, and tingling ones? There are even lubes made from CBD that can really enhance your sensation. Anything that makes your clit more sensitive will heighten your experience. 


6. Give your partner control

You’re not the only one with hands or ideas. Hand that bullet over to your boo for even more creativity and play. Again, be sure to start on a lower vibration setting, so the sensation doesn’t become too much, and communicate if it ever starts to be uncomfortable. Sex toys like bullet vibrators can bring couples closer together than ever; you’re collaborating on your own pleasure.

In terms of coming down after cumming, one thing that can feel really good is for either you or your partner to simply cup the vulva. Holding it firmly can feel very grounding after the high of the big O. If your clitoris or any other part of the region feels sore after the fact, a cool washcloth can feel delightful (it can also help to reduce inflammation).


It's not just for you

While most people think of bullet vibes as for vulva-owners only — and even then, solely for clitoral stimulation — your partner may enjoy the bullet just as much as you. Again, you can use it for nipple stimulation, anal/perineum stimulation, or any other erogenous zone for a more intense orgasm. (As is true with other toys, if you do any kind of anal play, be careful about cross-contamination. Most bullet vibrators should not be actually inserted into the anus, but you can play around the outside, so be sure to clean it before engaging in any other kind of play.)

For those with partners with penile equipment, you might also want to try some vibration on the testicles; this can be quite titillating indeed. Just like with you, start low and slow and work your way up to higher vibes. 


Bullet vibrator safety & aftercare

Even when you've found the best bullet vibrator, there are a few things to know in terms of keeping yourself safe and comfy when it comes to using a bullet vibe. First, as mentioned, be sure to use a lube that plays nice with your bullet. Most of the time, this’ll mean a water-based lube if your toy is made of silicone.

Second, avoid actually inserting the vibe into your vaginal canal unless it’s specifically designed for that. Most bullet vibes are not designed for internal use; they’re meant to be used outside the vajayjay. Ditto for butt stuff -- don’t put the bullet up there. Remember that it can be super fun to rest it just outside your anus or perineum, though.

Finally, you want to keep your vibe nice and clean. Read the directions that come with your toy; most will simply require you to wash them with warm soap and water. Then, store it carefully, maybe in a small pouch or bag that may have come along with your bullet; this will keep it from getting dusty before its next showing.

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Melanie is a sex researcher and relationship coach with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University. She has a background in helping people recover from sexual abuse, and is passionate about trauma-informed therapy. In addition to being the host of popular podcast Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships, her work has been published or seen on TODAY, HuffPost, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more.