It’s Anal August! Time to get in some backdoor action. If you’ve never had anal sex before, that’s okay. We’ll walk you through the basics, so you can learn how to add anal pleasure to your own sex life. If you’re already experienced in the buttplay arena, there are still some tips that might be new to you. Plus, a refresher is always nice.
There’s nothing like the feeling of fullness that you get from anal sex. The options are endless, between toys and lubes, positions, and even double penetration. You can do whatever you’re comfortable with, but know this: anal play can bring on orgasms like you’ve never experienced before. It’s true!
Talking about (or thinking about, or engaging in) anal sex used to be considered pretty taboo. Butt play, anal sex and anything rear-focussed was looked at as dirty and inappropriate. Luckily, that unfortunate era is long gone! The script has been flipped, as they say. Many, many people of all genders, identities and sexual orientations love anal sex,stimulation and general deriere delights. If you’re new to anal play, we’re about to enlighten you. Come over to the butt side!
Anal for Beginners
There’s a lot to learn, but it’s much simpler than you may think. Just like having any type of sex for the first time, you’re going to want to take things slow and respect your body. There are also lots of tools and toys to help make you more comfortable.
Step 1: Prepare Your Anal Arsenal
There are a few things you should have on hand for all your Anal August fun. There are anal prep kits to get you cleansed beforehand. Anal sex toys can help you get used to the feeling of anal sex gradually or keep things feeling brand new for the experienced. Lubes are a must for any anal play. Finally, condoms are a great way to stop the spread of STDS and infections.
- Anal douches and enemas can help you will all your hiney hygiene needs. Cleansing beforehand can help to prevent an overabundance of…well, feces from showing up without an invitation. It is your butt, after all. You might end up with some brown on your anal toys or the tip of your lover’s penis/strap-on during or after anal penetration, but a douche can help make you both feel more confident and clean. Some enema systems can also double as lubricant applicators. You can use a douche for cleansing purposes after anal sex as well, or you can stick to your normal post-sex clean up routine.
- The different kinds of anal sex toys for beginners you can find at PinkCherry.com might surprise you. There really is something for everyone. We recommend a tapered toy like a small butt plug or anal beads for the freshest of butt play beginners. As you build up on your confidence, you can move onto anal vibes for tingly effects or prostate massagers for deeper and more pinpoint stimulation.
- Lube is an absolute necessity for any kind of backdoor action. Your anus does not produce moisture the way a vagina does. This means that anal sex without the right lubrication can be extremely painful. Luckily for you, Pinkcherry.com has an entire line of anal sex lubes to make sure you’ve got great moisture. While silicone lubes will last the longest, you can’t use these with silicone toys (silicone breaks down other silicone it encounters). Silicone and water-based lubes won’t wear down condoms, so these are an option for those practicing safe sex. Water-based lubes act in the same way plain water does by evaporating and rubbing into skin over time, so you might get a little sticky with this option.
- Condoms are also highly recommended for anal sex. Sadly, it’s just a myth that you can’t get STDs from anal sex, so protect your booty the same way you would your other sexy parts. This goes both ways: if either partner has an STD affecting their anus, it can be passed along. The best practice, as always, is to play it safe. Condoms can also be an effective way to prevent bacteria from the anus from making their way to the vagina. Simply replace your used condom with a fresh one after you’re finished with your anal play.
Step 2: Communication is Key to Awesome Anal
Whether you’re both new to anal sex or seasoned pros, it’s important to have a sort of plan to make sure things run smoothly. With 8,000 nerve endings located in the anus, you are prone to feel some discomfort if you aren’t both on the same page.
If you’re on the bestowing end, you’ll need to be listening to your partner. If they tell you something is causing them pain or that they need a rest, you’ll need to be ready to stop immediately. You can also take note of their body language. The more relaxed your partner appears, the more they are likely enjoying what you’re doing.
If you are on the receiving end, it’s your job to communicate. There are no set rules on what you say to your partner aside from being clear. You don’t want your partner to misunderstand you, resulting in a potential injury. “Stop,” “no,” and, “don’t,” are highly effective words to tell your partner that your behind needs a break.
Step 3: Slow and Steady Wins the Race
The anal opening is much narrower than the vagina. The sphincter is also much tighter as far as muscles go. You’ll need to be patient as the muscle stretches and relaxes. So, what can you do to make this happen?
You know that scene in Titanic where Molly Brown tells Jack to, “Just start from the outside and work your way in,” about the silverware? Well, the same can be said for anal sex. You can’t just plunge right in and thrust away. Start by stimulating the outside of the anus by massage, tickling, or whatever floats your boat (I promise no more Titanic references). Once you’re feeling comfortable you can insert either the tip of a finger or toy, slowly working your way deeper when you’re ready. Make sure you’re using lube to prevent any discomfort.
Anal August: Analyzed
In conclusion, anal sex is not something to rush into. You’ll need to choose what you want to include to customize your experience to your own unique needs and preferences. Talking with your partner beforehand will make things go smoothly. Lastly, taking things slow is the way to go. Anal sex is one of the best feelings in the world, so don’t worry about judgement from others. Join the millions of people who are already experiencing amazing anal pleasures.