Even though the term ‘pegging’ is relatively new, the act is definitely not. In this article, we’ve gathered together all the sexy details on what pegging is, and why there’s so much hype around it. You’ll learn what you need to try pegging with your partner, and some helpful tricks of the butt-trade to get started down the road to plenty of pegging playtime pleasure. Let’s get started!
Anal sex and butt penetration is definitely nothing new. In fact, (seriously, we checked this!) for many people, it’s a regular part of their sexual repertoire. Just like any other kind of playtime activity, there are many ways to enjoy anal exploration and stimulation. You can use butt plugs, prostate massagers, anal vibes, beads, and all kinds of other toys to have more fun with your butt, BUT there’s one anal act in particular that’s getting a lot of attention lately, and it’s called pegging.
What exactly is pegging?
Pegging refers to a very specific type of anal sex activity. Pegging sex is when one partner wears a strap-on or harness-style dildo or vibrator, and anally penetrates their partner. The term is usually used to refer to women using a strap-on with their male partners, but any couple can do it, as long as you’ve got the right gear & toys to pull it off!
Why do people enjoy pegging?
As with any other sex act, there are plenty of reasons why someone would want to be pegged, or want to peg their partner. As long as pegging (and any sex act) is done safely and respectfully, all those reasons are valid, as far as we’re concerned! For men, a lot of pegging pleasure comes from stimulation of the prostate gland, a powerful internal erogenous zone that’s sometimes compared to the female g-spot.
For other people, pleasure and excitement stems from the reversal of traditional gender roles during sex. The perceived control shift during sex can be a real thrill for some couples, as the pegger takes on the ‘dominant’ position and the peggee a more submissive role.
Speaking of control, having total power over the speed, pace and intensity of sex is a huge draw for many women (and other peggees), when it comes to pegging. In general, the pleasurable physical act of being pegged comes from a combination of the size & shape of the dildo, vibrator or probe being used, plus the motion of the person doing the pegging. You can probably imagine the many, many sexy sensations you and your partner can experience with the huge array of sex toys to choose from.
Speaking of a huge array, let’s start to look at some of the specific sex gear that you’ll need to get started, shall we?
What sex toys do you need to try pegging?
You won’t need a ton of sex toy supplies to get ready for pegging, but there are definitely some essentials that you’ll need to pick up in order to properly peg or be pegged.
Dildos & Vibrators for Pegging Sex
The main attraction of pegging toys (for the person being pegged, at least!) is going to be the dildo or vibrator that is used to do the actual penetrating. This is where many first-timers get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of choices. Do you want something smooth or textured? Vibrating or not? Long or short, wide or narrow? The combinations are almost limitless, but try not to get too hung up on details for now!
For pegging beginners, and beginners to any new sex act for that matter, it’s best to take a step back and start with something simple before working your way up. In general, you’ll want to start with a dildo or vibrator that’s on the small side. You can always try something larger later. If you’re a a newcomer to anal play period, definitely go small. Tiny, even. Smoother is always better for newbies, it’s a good idea to get used to the sensation of simple penetration before graduating to something textured.
One key feature you’ll need to look for in any dildo, vibe, plug or probe that’s going to be used during pegging play is compatibility with a strap-on set or harness. Compatible dildos and vibrators (and other sex toys) will have a flared - sometimes known as flanged - base, or an integrated connection that allows them to be mounted on or in harness. We’ve got a whole section of harness-compatible dildos and vibrators for you to explore, and we always mention a toy's harness compatibility, no matter which category of our site you’re browsing.
Harnesses & Strap-On Gear for Pegging Sex
At the core of any pegging session, of course, is the strap-on or harness itself. Your soon-to-peg dildo or vibe needs to be mounted and secured in proper position, after all. Harnesses and strap-on sets come in tons of styles, some look like really sexy panties, some are more traditional, and others come in exciting colours to suit your mood. A good strap-on harness will feature lots of different adjustment points to keep everything comfortably snug to your body and the dildo or vibrator being used secure. Most strap-on systems are designed to accommodate dildos and vibrators of many sizes, and most come with interchangeable O-rings or fasteners. This means that you’ll be able to enjoy your fave harness with all kinds of penetrators and explore tons of hot pegging possibilities.
Best Sex Lubes for Pegging
Hopefully you know that we’re big advocates for the use of sex lubes for all kinds of sexy activities. This is absolutely the case when it comes to pegging. In fact, you'll want to be even more generous than usual with the lube when you’re strapping one on.
In terms of which lubes are best for pegging, you’ll want to a) follow the lubricant guidelines for the toy you’re using and b) keep in mind that pegging is an anal act, so most anal lubes will work great. Water based lubes are always a good bet, since they’re safe with any toy material. Many anal and pegging dildos are made of silicone since it’s so hygienic. For extra sex toy 101 credit, what type of lube do we never use with a silicone toy? That’s right, we never combine silicone with silicone! Please only use a water based lube with any silicone sex toy. Luckily, there are a zillion great water based lubes to choose from.
Tips for Getting Started with Pegging the Right Way
We’ll let you in on the most important pegging tip, and also tell you that this gem goes for absolutely anything sexual you’re trying for the first time, revisiting, or even just considering. Here it is : Open and honest communication. Always. Talk a LOT, listen hard and go from there. Keep in mind that some people just won’t be comfortable with the idea of getting pegged or doing the pegging, and that’s okay!
Let’s assume you’ve talked about it and you’re both on-board. Great! Time for some more research and maybe some shopping. Start with a pegging kit that’s designed for beginners, like the Lux Fetish Size Up Dildo And Harness Set. It’s got everything you need to give pegging a try, and it also happens to be one of our top-rated products. The harness is soft, comfy and easy to adjust, plus the included dildo smooth, small and definitely beginner friendly.
After choosing your gear and talking (a lot, probably!), it’s warm up time. If you’re already familiar with all things anal, you already know the golden rule: LUBE. Use it! Tease, touch, start with a little external massage to ready your/their butt for penetration. Be patient, go slow, take the time to relax and really get into it. Start with a well-lubed finger or maybe even a little butt plug before moving onto the pegging dildo or vibe.
Check in with each other often! If something’s not comfortable or if you decide you downright don’t like being pegged, say so. On the flip-side, when things REALLY feel right, be sure to say so, too! Your partner will want to know that things are going well, and mutual encouragement when trying sexy stuff is always a great idea, right? Right!
From Pegging Beginner to Pegging Expert (Pegxpert?)
As always, we hope that all this pegging info has been helpful, enjoyable and maybe even inspirational. If you’ve ever been curious about pegging, how it might feel, or how your partner might feel about it, we’ve got a little saying around here when it comes to trying new things in the bedroom (or other room/location of choice, obvs.): there’s no time like the present!
Here’s the bottom line, so to speak. Lots of intense sexual sensations are waiting for you in the pegging realm, and with the massive array of pegging dildos and vibrators to choose from, you’ll never run out of new ways to please your or your partner's butt. Who knows, once you start pegging, you just might want to become an expert, and fast!
